Seriously, people. Don’t we have anything better to do than sit around and gossip about who is sleeping with whom or who wants to sleep with whom or who wants to just sleep with anyone? It was fun and now it’s time to move on, leaving this perceived hotbed of horniness behind.
Many of us have trawled and trolled through the extensive list of (mostly) men who for whatever reason, went on AshleyMadison.com, a match maker for just about anyone. I saw the names of about 20 local people I knew. I have lived in the area a long time. Some I didn’t care about one way or the other. Other names made me sad because of the leap to judgement that seems to be the human condition when perceived wrong-doing is in question. Some folks weather these things better than others.
People have different reasons for going to sites like that. They probably have different reasons for coming to my blog also. It certainly doesn’t mean that they are having an affair or looking for love in all the wrong places. It could just mean they are curious or bored. We just don’t know. Frankly, unless we are married to one of those people, it isn’t any of our business.
I was able to create an account just this morning with no money involved. I wanted to see how easy it was. Naturally, I didn’t use my real name. I thought about doing an account on someone I didn’t like but then I thought that probably wasn’t decent behavior. Oh and did I forget to include I wasn’t looking for an affair, I just wanted to see how easy it was to create an account.
The people who really end up getting hurt when these things hit the proverbial fan are the spouses and children. They didn’t ask for any of this unwanted attention. How many families have now been opened up to ridicule, prying eyes and yes, blackmail.
“Mrs. Snowden” is a liar and a thief and cares about no one. That individual should go to jail for decades. Yet some folks believe what “she” says. Funny that Mrs. Snowden is privy to so much inside information.
Some bloggers have taken absolute delight in this latest expose’ as well as salacious information about others in the past. Why exploit information both real and imagined at the expense of others? Some people, I suppose, are just drawn to what they perceive as “dirty.” I hope those bloggers understand the pain they have caused the families of their victims.
The real hitting the fan is going to be over the thousands upon thousands of government and military IP addresses that have now been exposed. Are the taxpayers footing the bill for employees to troll hoochie mama sites? Are we paying people to come to work to check in on match up sites? I hope not.
Most serious of all is the fact that people can now be blackmailed. A private citizen only has his friends, family and neighbors to worry about. Those checking out Ashley Madison from work put other things at risk since the hackers have other information on these people that hasn’t yet been released. Government workers and those in the military could easily be blackmailed and more. According to Fox 40 news:
Many of the cheaters exposed in this hack serve in the U.S. military, evident because they used email addresses that end in the .mil domain. Adultery does, in fact, violate Uniform Code of Military Justice. It’s a prosecutable offense that can land you a year in confinement and a dishonorable discharge.
I wouldn’t go so far as to use the word “cheaters” to apply to any of these people. Being on a list isn’t cheating. What is cheating? That’s pretty much the limits and boundaries each couple establishes with each other. It’s a private matter. Where it becomes an issue with me is when politicians who have campaigned on sexual issues get caught with their pants down, so to speak. Now everyone likes catching a big hypocrite. Other than that, it really isn’t our business. Time to move on. Enough harm has been done.